Self-pity may well be the most damaging emotion a person can feel because it ruins everything around it. Self-pity usually results in misery and negative thinking. When you think negatively, the consequences are generally unpleasant. These unpleasant consequences make you feel even sorrier for yourself. Thus self-pity is self-sustaining Therefore, the key to beating it is to recognize it when it creeps into your thoughts and eliminate it immediately. Because feeling sorry for oneself becomes a pattern over time, you need to retrain your brain not to think so negatively.
I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself.
- D. H. Lawrence
Here’s how to do it:
1. Create a zero tolerance policy with yourself. Made a pact with yourself that you would not allow yourself to indulge in self pity any more.
2. Move your body – Physical exercise is critical. If you move your body your mind will follow. Physical energy and motivation can empower your whole life. Getting in shape can be a springboard to better emotional health.
3. Choose Gratitude - This is a direct attack on self pity: you cannot feel both grateful and sorry for yourself at the same time. The two feelings are completely incompatible. Gratitude is the ticket out of misery and self-absorption.
"I am alive and grateful."
During a season of transition in my life, I found myself overwhelmed with negative emotions like self-pity and a complaining spirit. It was as if a dark cloud had descended over me.
Victim ways of thinking...why is this happening to me...